My last blog post was about enjoying the sun – and guess what ever since it has tipped it down!
I feel I have to therefore accept responsibility for the weather, ruining half term and possibly ruining the health of thousands of people who attended the Royal Jubilee celebrations. Just kidding!
To be fair, it is a tendency I have noticed in myself to take responsibility for things that actually I cannot control and yet I feel it is up to me to sort them out.
I came across a model a while back that helped me shift this hugely- it’s called The Drama Triangle and explains we each can play a ‘role’ in certain situations with others which pushes them into playing ‘roles’ so the game works.
In the Drama Triangle we could play Victim, Rescuer or Persecutor and, weirdly, we can seek out others to play with us!
I was the classic rescuer which as a coach was not useful – firstly it implies my client needs rescued and also lets an individual stay stuck in a ‘poor me’ story.
So now when I feel myself jump into little miss ‘fixit’ thinking I step back and stay neutral – and its getting easier each time because I believe we are all creative, resourceful and whole so no need to fix or rescue anyone for me!