How do you make your best decisions? Is it from the advice of others? A flip of a coin? Or good old gut feel?
How much information is enough to make the decision? Or has too much information meant no decision gets made?
Or has it been all of the above at sometime or another?
If your current strategy balancing logic, rational assessment and intuition it is likely you are finding decision making easier and more accurate to make than those relying on one and excluding the other.
The fact is we make decisions primarily based on emotion and intuition and then justify it with logic and Chip and Dan Heath in their book Switch argue convincingly for the need fro the mind and the emotions to be aligned for change to stick.
Perhaps, putting off making a decision is not procrastination but a signal your mind and your emotions are not aligned behind the outcome of that decision.
I used to think of hope as a value – somehow the fact that hope had remained in Pandora’s box when everything flew off made me assign a special status as the personification of something almost mystical.
Lately, I have shifted in that belief – I think hope like happiness is a choice.
I believe that in any given moment we can choose glass half-empty or half-full mindsets – so we can choose to see the possibility of hope for something different in any situation.
I know some people who inspired hope in others in the darkest days – not in a sugary sweet way but grounded in gritty reality.
And lastly – hope means action. With hope comes the responsibility to act to change things for ourselves and others.
Maybe I’m wrong but I’m hoping to stay choosing hope over the alternative.
When preparing the event ‘Secrets of the Gurus’ I had a fantastic opportunity to look at the traits they share as well as the processes they have adopted and adapted and apply them to myself.
It led me to review my whole business plan for this year and so you will notice shifts in the content on the website as I re-focus on where I believe I bring most value to my clients.
So what are the secrets of the gurus? Well, for me the secret is that they are people like us who apply passion to their business and keep going whatever the resistance they face.
They make themselves extraordinary through their mindset – that is the game changer. So what is your mind set on in your business? And in your life?
Actually probably the place to begin is by deciding what a guru is….for me I look to a number of teachers and mentor figures who have compelling messages to share and have created fantastic businesses around themselves.
I am thinking of Tony Robbins, for example, who for my money started it all off.
His drive and passion jump out at you and yet the model he used is simple and accessible to every coach, consultant, trainer, therapist etc etc. And, to-day the technology we can access for free gives us an amazing reach.
Are you the next guru in the making? On 16th March I am co-hosting an event with Carole Bozkurt of The Blueprint Practice you might enjoy – there are a couple of places left – check it out here:
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
February is probably best known for St. Valentine’s Day but it begins with another less well-known celebration. February 2nd is Groundhog Day. On this day the groundhog comes out looks for his shadow and tells the assembled citizens whether winder will continue for a further 6 weeks or there will be an early spring. The celebration is thought to link back to European traditions – some say Celtic others link it to Candlemas.
However, the term groundhog day passed into common usage as a result of the movie made in 1993. Shortly afterwards, it became used to describe when a series of events usually unpleasant keeps recurring. The movie has Bill Murray play Phil, self-obsessed news reporter trapped in a time loop who finds that whatever he does on the day he ends up back at 7:00 a.m February 2nd each time he awakens. He replays the day in a range of ways – which are self-destructive at first but over time he decides to use his time more usefully even learning to play the piano and learn French.
I got to thinking that in many ways this movie is a modern day fairy-tale of self-improvement and, even, that my Buddhist friends would love some of the ‘lessons’ he learns which finally break him from his perpetual cycle of groundhog days.
The movie shows Phil begin to shift his experience by looking for change within first and then directing his knowledge about the day and events to befriend and help others. He gains satisfaction from ditching his obsession with his own desires and wants and factoring the needs of others into his world. (All attributes according to research, of being ‘happy’). Once he completes this transition February 3rd can come and he can move on in the new world he has chosen for himself by changing his thinking and focus of his action.
The first thing is, of course, to recognise that we probably all have had times in our life when it has felt like Groundhog Day. The same events play out and we do the same things and get the same results. We realise that we have become stuck.
So, what are your personal behaviours and thoughts that are creating your recurring negative experiences? How can you break out of them?
- Begin by noticing when, where and with whom you are in a loop
- Stop putting the responsibility with others and look for what you can do differently
- Identify ways of thinking that would support you better and experiment with behaviours – it may take a few ‘run throughs’ to get the best blend for you and your world
- Look for opportunities to show support, encouragement and compassion to others – not just random acts of kindness but recognition that as others grow and succeed so do you.
If you haven’t watched the movie please do – you can see how he gets what he wants including the girl when he stops fighting the world and accepts responsibility for his own learning and implements what he learns to benefit himself and others.
Have a great Groundhog Day but I hope for you it is only once a year!